I am not the perfect mom. We are not the perfect family. This blog is not perfection. We don’t get to travel to exotic locals every month like some of the other families you can find on Instagram. It’s a struggle just to make it out the front door most mornings. Ok... fine, every morning is a struggle. And yet, I still dream about having “perfect” family time with my family.
Last week marked our first “vacation” since I have started our blog. It was a bit of a last minute affair, but still I had time to research, plan, organize and dream about the all the lovely time we would get to spend together. I didn’t think that getting that family time was going to happen when so much was going wrong...
What went wrong? I planned a camping trip (in a tent) during a heat wave. A heat wave that claimed more lives than Ice Storm 98. Hubby forgot his favorite camping essentials. (Namely coffee, as well as the camping coffee pot.) We were eaten alive by every fly native to Canada. Each family member had a fight (or more) with each family member present. I injured my thumb. My son threw a rock at my daughters head. A grand parent ended up back at the hospital. Tantrums. Children tantrums AND adult tantrums.
At the end of the day (read: at the end of ALL the days), the kids were handed the phones for screen time that I had planned to abolish for the entire trip. We left the campgrounds 2 days early.
Upon returning to the land of wi-fi, I posted a picture of the kids, hand in hand wading in the water as my profile picture on Facebook. Everyone commented how much fun they looked like they were having. Needless to say... I didn't happen to capture the moment when my daughter got the rock to the head minutes later...
This was a good reminder as to how people share photos of the good times. Just remember of everything that happens that isn't captured on camera, what happens behind the scenes. No one is perfect.
But especially, remember YOUR imperfect family moments. The ones where you don't have time to take out your camera because you have to check your child for a concussion. Those crappy moments between the picture-perfect ones. Because those moments are still family time. They're learning moments, and reminders of how resilient your family is. They might just be the best family time spent together.
Melissa is a mom, wife, and early childhood educator who blogs about her journey looking for new experiences for family time.